"I'm scared to leave the relationship because I don't want to be alone."
"I have a hard time standing up for myself. My self esteem is at it's lowest."
"I can't control my anger."
"I'm using alcohol and everything I can get my hands on to cope. I'm struggling."
My work with individuals through the years has revolved around building self esteem, living in recovery, changing early childhood patterns, building healthy relationships, anger management, and designing a life that is more fulfilling and rewarding. I work closely with my clients in identifying the history behind the behavior, and problem solving to develop better coping skills and strategies.
I work with men and women who are in recovery, and help them with adapting new skills to build and maintain healthy relationships. As well as exploring the underlying beliefs and reasons that led to the addiction.
"I have no support in this marriage. I feel alone, and I don't know what to do anymore."
"The addiction is taking over our lives. This is not the person I married."
"There is no intimacy in our relationship. I don't know what happened."
"The trust has been breached with the affair. I don't know how to save the relationship."
"The control is overbearing. I don't know who I am anymore."
These are just a few of the struggles I help my clients with to repair their relationship. When working with couples I often tend to see the couples together as well as separately. In every relationship there is the personal and the collective experience, and couples often tell me how they are guilty of taking the frustration out on each other. I help my clients identify the patterns, their origin, and effective ways to communicate needs/requests/ and feelings. Minimizing unproductive interactions that leads to arguing, bickering, and resentment.
I've worked extensively with couples who are dealing with infidelity, where the trust has been destroyed, and the overwhelming feeling of betrayal and loneliness has enveloped the relationship. I normalize the strong intense feelings that come up, and encourage a kind, open environment where the truth leads the way to healing. Thereby rebuilding trust.
I work closely with blended families who have unique struggles that revolve around power and control. Often the step parent feels like an outsider, and has a hard time finding the right role in the new family. It gets even more complicated when dealing with two sets of step parents. Assigning responsibility, creating rules, following thru on expectations, and being on the same page are just some of the common struggles.
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it -Rumi